Have an elder family member or friend who isn't eating (or eating cereal three meals a day)? Or whose refrigerator is empty? Or who seems to be mixing up their medications? Or whose apartment is a mess? Or who isn't keeping themselves clean?
Perhaps your family member or friend would benefit for having help in their home. Or perhaps they need to move to another living arrangement, at least temporarily.
Many older adults prefer to receive the care they need in the familiarity and comfort of their own homes. How can an older adult obtain that care? If you are helping an elder family member or friend obtain care, how can you increase the likelihood of a good at-home care experience?
Solid information and planning ahead improve the results we all can obtain. So weve done a fair amount of digging, and come up with the following information to help you arrange home care. As always, feel free to share this information with others.
Whether we want to or not, each of us will die someday. Many of us, because we’ll have been dealing with a life-threatening illness, will know that "the end" is coming.
If you knew that you had a terminal illness, how would you want to spend your remaining time? How would you want to live your life?
Many people who are terminally ill, with six months or less to live, would prefer to live, be cared for and die at home. Those who would prefer this approach should consider the “hospice” option.
You want your elder family member to be able to live at home. You don't want to have to move him or her to assisted living, board and care, or a nursing home.
On the other hand, sometimes you need a break from care giving. You need to give yourself some care to tend to your own needs. Or maybe you just need some time alone, even just time to take in a movie.
Chris is concerned about Terri, his mom. Terri seems to have been eating cereal for all her meals and whose refrigerator is nearly empty. And Terri seems to be mixing up her medications.
Marcia is worried about Sal, her dad. Sal’s apartment is a mess, he isn’t showering and he never seems to go out.
Medical problems (strokes and other causes of damage to the brain) can shut down a person’s ability to speak and write. If a family member or friend has lost the ability to speak and write, what’s to be done?
Consider the position of this daughter (we’ll call her Nancy) whose mother has had a stroke:
"Mom read to me when I was a child. We talked about everything. Moms had a stroke. She can’t speak, and can’t write. I can’t tell what Mom is thinking, but I know she’s frustrated. I hate seeing her like this."